After barging into an online discussion and then not being able to pull away, I found myself in the very center of a long and intense exchange of opinions.
I've decided on using a few of the quotes for discussion here, but the full discussion can be found on the attached pdf. The posts on this link are numbered to easily identify the points if you’d like to discuss any of them in the comments section.
As is my policy, I will not use names or locations. I have also removed any referrals to specific children as well as all identifying content. You will have to trust that I’ve taken good care in preserving the integrity of the conversation.
At issue here is whether there are leagues where the tension between coaches and umpires/referees is taking away from keeping the focus on the kids.
Another topic is if a youth coach needs to “fight” for his players during a game in order for them to “believe” in him.
Person #1
Got ejected today! I'm protecting my kids, when did umps become so (darn) sensitive?? It's nothing like when I played? (DARN!!!)
Person # 2
That’s because (it’s) not one of our dads (umpiring).
Person # 3
Lol. You love getting thrown out of games. Last time I saw you at (X’s) softball game you got thrown out (of) there too!! Hahahaha
Person # 4
Everyone is getting soft.
Person # 5
When u played, (it) wasn't like it is now — (too) competitive and u being a chump!!??
Ron Goralski
Zero tolerance from youth coaches.
Person # 6
Love this. First of the young season?? I am good for (an ejection) every year. Always stick up for your players. Problem is, at that level you get the bottom of the barrel of umpires. Or young, snot-nosed punks with something to prove and the lack of integrity for the game or respect for its past.
Ron Goralski
Seriously?
Person # 1
I'm always defending my guys. Period! But this was ridiculous!
Ron Goralski
Yeah, but getting thrown out of youth games. C'mon man. That's just wrong (on) so many levels. So many other options. Booooo!
Person # 1
8th (grade) and freshmen are not youth sports, Ron. It's the changing of the guard. When (we) teach the guys the game of baseball. If you are referring to little league then I'll agree. If not, I feel bad that you were never TRULY taught the GAME!
Ron Goralski
You should be suspended for that! It is still youth sports. Terrible example to set. Even HS coaches need to keep their cool and control themselves. You are wrong, sir.
Person # 1
And high school coaches are ejected every day! I AM suspended for one game! And again, being a fan IS NOT (the same as) knowing the GAME OF BASEBALL!
Ron Goralski
Glad you were taught how to be confrontational. Knowing the game has nothing to do with being tossed and suspended. NOTHING. You've done nothing to teach the kids that couldn't have waited until after the game. You don't need to act like Billy Martin to teach your teenagers the game, Coach.
Person # 7
How about a change in direction — my daughter dances, when competing there are judges, I would expect her coach/instructor to stand up for her and the dance team if they were unfairly judged. Same is true for musicians, science fairs, academic contests and any arena children are competing against each other.
Ron Goralski
Now you're just playing with me, right? So wait ... you are going to argue with the science teacher if you think your child should have gotten a ribbon — but didn't?
Can I ask how old your daughter is?
Person # 7
(Under 10). She plays (baseball) and takes (dance). What I'm saying is this is bigger than sports. It's about life. Wherever there is a competition with kids and coaches/instructors/teachers/mentors I would expect them to stand up for our kids if they feel they were done wrong.
Ron Goralski
Competition is fine. Competition is healthy. But we are clearly too obsessed with results at the youth level. Even into the teen years.
That’s all we have room for here folks. As you can see from the discussion on the attached pdf, Person # 1 is a thoughtful and caring coach who is obviously extremely knowledgeable about the game and cares deeply for his ballplayers.
My intent is not to question the motives or abilities of any of these volunteer coaches. There are issues that go way beyond one person’s behavior and has more to do with the structure, the tradition (for better or for worse), and the foundation that many youth organizations are standing upon.
Person # 1, while taking a proverbial shovel to the head as a result of my irritating digs, helps to unearth that which hides from those of us who crave the answers.
Now it’s a matter of deciding if it’s a hole worth filling.
